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The Lone Yogi

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Hara Mara, Mexico is an hour east of my favorite Mexican resort—Puerto Vallarta—but it might as well by in the rainforest. There is no electricity, but an abundance of scorpions and crabs.

And I’m was there without a partner, even though everybody else has one.

Not only is the four hours per day of yoga hard, but then I also have to pretend to have fun and with all these couples over a gourmet vegetarian meal three times a day. This drops me into my sadness and aloneness after a 20 year marriage that failed.

I didn’t know how sad and alone I was till I confronted it head–on like looking down the barrel of the wrong end of a gun.

However, I made it to 10 of 11 sessions and made the best out of it. Believe it or not, I was uplifted by the end and more committed to my yoga practice than ever.

Comments

Awesome Mark for sticking it out and ending up in a positive place! You rock.

Namaste, Meredith

Mark we are all proud of you hanging in there. Sorry you have to deal with being by yourself. But we have to be a complete person by ourselves before we can move on. Keep up the good work. All the very best to you.

You should be proud of sticking it out! That is an accomplishment.

Yoga will make you confront the things that you have ignored ... I find certain poses trigger deeply emotional responses from me at times. It's scary, but liberating at the same time.

Mark. We have to remember that what choices we make, we make for ourselves. Every choice is a personal challenge, or discipline. Be happy with your discipline, and expand from that. You just gave yourself that much more room for expansion and discipline. Feel secure in that.

BJ

Mark,

Congrats on sticking with many days of four hours a day yoga training. WOW!

As I work through the pain and frustration of trying to realign and muscularize my body, there is a passage from one of Carlos Castenda's book - The Teaching of Don Juan that I find helps me focus on my efforts. I share it with you:

"...Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn't, it is of no use.

Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn't. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.

Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him.

At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.

I have told you that to choose a path you must be free from fear and ambition. The desire to learn is not ambition. It is our lot as men to want to know.

The path without a heart will turn against men and destroy them. It does not take much to die, and to seek death is to seek nothing.

For me there is only the traveling on the paths that have a heart, on any path that may have a heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge for me is to traverse its full length. And there I travel--looking, looking, breathlessly."

I think the last part opens up the world - look up long enough to look, look, breathlessly.

Best wishes,

Jim

Mark,

Stay on the path and you will reach the most authentic relationship ever - the one with yourself!

Sat Nam,
Devta

I really admire you Mark for going it on your own. And remember you were not alone, you were with yourself.

dude, four hours? who are you impressing? Pretending....real mourning, which one is real? which one will help? Monroe Institute...be there. Lama Surya Das...try it. Sadness/happiness...yin/yang.
Love you/Seeyou. Namaste.
Helen

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